The Shrinking Bladder



  • Oh, my little love. How are you already a year old? It feels both like I only just met you and that I've known your face my whole life. You are absolutely moving from baby to toddler, as you rarely let us hold you to fall asleep, want to move independently, and want to feed yourself. Your opinions are expressed loud and clear and you are so curious about the world around you. I didn't know I could be so exhausted and so in love before you arrived. Your dad and I love you so much!

    Likes: 
    -Saying "bye bye!" and waving
    -food, food, food, food
    -playing peekaboo with daddy's hat
    -Max the Sloth Unicorn toy from Harrison
    -Cruising on furniture, moving independently

    Dislikes:
    -Diaper changes, outfit changes, getting into the car seat. Anything in which she has to be restrained.
    -Not being allowed to eat food off our plates
    -Dirty diapers at night
    -Wearing socks or shoes 

    Schedule: So much is changing in such a short amount of time. At school, they are knocking her down to one nap a day, but she still occasionally naps twice on the weekends. We're finishing off the last of her formula at home and we've started giving her milk and water in sippy cups. Instead of bottles at school, she now gets breakfast, lunch, and an afternoon snack. She's starting to sleep through the night again (thank GOODNESS), going to bed around 7:30 or 8 and awake again at 7-ish. 

    Features: With the addition of more solid food, I feel like she is getting chunkier. Which is the opposite of what I thought would happen was she became more mobile! But this girl can put food AWAY so I'm not too shocked. Her light brown hair is lengthening into a mullet and she's got some wonderful little curls happening.  She has six teeth, two on top and four on the bottom, and I wouldn't be surprised if a few new ones don't pop up soon.

    Milestones: Learning to hug, the end of bottles and formula, standing without holding on to anything, new words ("whoa!" is a favorite)

    Firsts: 
    -Pink eye (yay)
    -Day in the one year old room at school
    -Sippy cups with straws

    Challenges: Mostly, just living life with a crazy active kiddo. We were all sick at one point or another this month, we had a baby shower to throw, we had some really sad family losses, we had a jam packed month. There's no slowing down with Frankie, though. I'm learning the balance and starting to embrace it. I miss the days where I could plop her on her playmat and she'd be content, but I wouldn't trade her goofy conversations and dancing and hugs for absolutely anything. Thankful for all the extra hands that helped us this month!

    Thoughts: I am so emotional writing this blog. Two years ago, I was in the middle of fertility treatment... hormone after hormone injection... failed treatment after failed treatment. I didn't know what was in the cards for us. Just last year, I woke up for work not feeling so hot. I had no idea I'd be going to the hospital that day and leaving with my whole heart in my arms a few days later. Being your parent has been the most incredible, difficult, rewarding, and wonderful thing. I cannot express how much I love you and how thankful I am for you, Frances Grace. Happy Birthday!









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    Is there anything more magical than a baby's first Christmas? With Frankie being more and more talkative, independent, and hilarious, I feel like this was the perfect month for her first holiday season. She loved being passed from family member to family member, eating ALL the food, seeing all the twinkly lights, and opening her first ever presents!

    Likes: 
    -Dropping food for the dogs
    -Stealing phones and remote controls
    -Ripping bows off of presents
    -When either of us walks in a room and says hi to her
    -Watching the water on the shower door while we all scramble and try to get ready in the morning

    Dislikes:
    -Waking up before she's ready
    -Wearing shoes or hats
    -Having to sit still for diaper or outfit changes. We spend a LOT of time chasing a naked baby around trying to get pants on her.
    -The car seat/bike seat when we first put her in

    Schedule: Not much has changed. Still up for work/daycare at 6/6:30 and its a mad dash to get everyone out the door. 4-5 6oz bottles a day with solids all through the day. She still has yet to meet a food she doesn't like. She is especially fond of anything mom and dad are also eating. We get home from daycare/work at 5:30 and spend time eating and playing until bath and bed time at 7. She still wakes up once a night most nights, which is why I'm still exhausted, but its just a matter of a quick diaper change or a bottle and shes back passed out.   

    Features: She's moving out of a baby face and into such a toddler. We got three more teeth (in one day!) so she's looking like a little toothy beaver these days. Her hair is starting to get long with a little wave to it. I don't know its because she has more goop in her hair from being a crazy person during meal time, or if she's actually getting mama's hair texture, but its really cute.

    Milestones: Top teeth, saying UH OH, bye bye, and calling me Na na (hey, I'll take it). We're THISSSSS close to steps. I think it might be this upcoming month!

    Firsts: 
    -Time meeting Santa
    -Family Christmas Party
    -Weekend at Aunt Gracie's house while mom and dad went camping
    -Bike ride!

    Challenges: This was such a fun month! I really don't think much WAS a challenge for her. As always, scheduling things with a very active baby is hard. It can be super stressful to try and party prep, get myself ready, Christmas shop, etc with someone who is hell bent on hurting herself on literally anything dangerous in a room, but we're making it work.

    Thoughts: She is, without a doubt, the best thing that has ever happened to me. I'm so so excited to celebrate her birthday next month and to see what the next year with her has in store. I love how independent, funny, and silly she is becoming. I love watching her learn new things and surprise me with how clever she's become. I knew having a baby would be cool, but I didn't think it would be THIS cool. Can we do it again, please? (yes, in a few years)









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    I look back at the first few months of parenthood, and while they were wonderful, I can't get over how much different things are now. I get to sleep (mostly). I get to eat (although she will be stealing some). She's fun to take out places. Shes really funny and likes to interact with others. Frankie's personality makes us laugh harder and harder every day. She is such a morning person, so adventurous, and SO strong willed. She knows all the right moments to ham it up and, much like her momma, makes it VERY clear when shes hungry or tired. 

    Likes: 
    -Cruising, walking using her zebra walker, pulling up on anything
    -Stealing all of mom and dad's food
    -Still loves all dogs
    -Pulling everything out of drawers and cabinets
    -Mornings!

    Dislikes:
    -Outfit changes/wearing clothes at all
    -Dirty diapers (which tend to happen the most at night.... ugh)
    -Getting put IN the car seat. Once we're in, its fine.
    -Not being allowed to play with things that will surely kill her
    -Sharing toys with Anastasia (her frienemy at school)

    Schedule: We're up at 6-6:30 am and everyone hangs out in mommy and daddy's room while we get ready for the day. Frankie has an 8oz bottle and crawls all over the place while we run around like crazy people. She's off to daycare and we're off to work. At daycare, shes having three bottles a day and usually a big lunch and snack of big kid food... taco bake, ziti, chicken pot pie.... you name it. She also gets a snack or a fruit or veggie in the afternoon. Once we pick her up, we get home and basically shovel more food in her mouth. She is a bottomless pit. Bath/jammies time around 6:45 and then to bed with a bottle at 7. Sometimes, we need a diaper change in the middle of the night, but she goes right back to bed after.        

    Features: Her hair is lightening, but is still brown. We're slowly moving out of being able to fit her in any 6 months clothing and have had to start unpacking those 12 month clothes. She's in size 3 diapers and weighs 18 lbs 11 oz at her last check up. She's still very smiley, but spends a lot more time concentrating on things now, trying to understand how they work. We've still got three teeth, but she won't let me see if her top teeth have started poking through yet. 

    Milestones: We're FINALLY saying something... ANYTHING other than Dada. She says Mama when angry, but we make a variety of sounds and like to mimic others now.

    Firsts: 
    -Ear infection/sick day home from school
    -Porchfest in our neighborhood

    Challenges: Life with a baby that cannot make up her mind! Does she want to play or eat? Be held or explore? The answer is always yes, to everything, all at the same time. Its so much fun, but it can also be exhausting. I love watching her explore and learn, but I do wish she liked to slow down and cuddle with me more. We laugh that Dad is the pillow and I am the jungle gym. Also, with this being our first full month of daycare, I did miss her a lot! But she loves her teacher and classmates and I know we made the right choice.

    Thoughts: We've reached the double digits of months and its so surreal. Every morning, when we come get you from your crib, it never gets old to see your big (slightly) toothy grin. I am missing the tiny baby you were, but I can't get over this lovely little girl you are becoming. I hope you always keep giggling, little one!










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    This crazy, outgoing, loud, funny baby! She absolutely loves to crawl and stand and explore. She's not ready to snuggle until she's good and tired. We are truly having the time of our lives with her, but MAN is she a handful sometimes. The minute you get one dangerous thing out of her hands, she's going for another one! I've become a broken record on here because every month really does get better and better. We've gotten the hang of leaving her with baby sitters. We've gotten to spend more time being Daniel and Sandy and not being consumed with worry. We've overcome some financial hurdles. It was a tough few months at the beginning, but now it just feels like we've reached a great new normal!

    Likes: 
    -Standing. Crawling and sitting is for immature babies. Ya gotta stand!
    -Looking at herself and kissing her reflection in the mirror
    -Dogs, cats, animals, people, anyone who will pay her attention
    -Saying DADA over and over and over and over
    -Eating crunchy food
    -Stealing food from mom and dad's plates

    Dislikes:
    -Outfit changes
    -Purees when she wants to feed herself
    -Waiting to eat for more than 2.5 seconds
    -Baby jail (aka pack n play in the living room so she doesn't hurt herself) when she wants to explore

    Schedule: We had a BIG change at the end of this month. Daniel got a new job, so Frankie started daycare. We are so grateful to Susu and the rest of the family that helped keep Frankie for the last 8 or so months, but it was time for her to go to school with the big girls! Now I take her to daycare at 7:30, where she gets to eat and play in Ms. Fran's class with three other baby girls. Daniel pick her up in the evenings and we have a little dinner and a bottle before bed. She's eating three-four 6 oz bottles a day with lots of solids in between. Big morning nap, little afternoon nap, if we're lucky. Lots and lots of playtime and exploring in between. Bed at 7 pm and wake up around 6:30 am!

    Features: She's still got short brown hair and big beautiful brown eyes. We've got three teeth on the bottom now, but none up top. She's REALLY filling out and starting to get chunky thighs, which makes me so happy. Girl loves to eat! We're busting out of our 6 month clothes and I unpacked the 9 month clothes last week. Size three diapers, around 18 lbs. I'm having more and more trouble picking up her car seat with her in it, so it may be time to start leaving it in my car. She's happy, loud, curious, and athletic! 

    Milestones: We're not just standing, we're full on cruising. When Frankie started sitting on her own about six weeks ago, Emily told me this was her favorite baby age because "they can sit, but they cant really go anywhere"..... yeah, well, that lasted all of two days for us. Frankie is in EVERYTHING and will stand up and crawl on anything she can. She has no fear. 

    Firsts: 
    -Family vacation to Boone, NC to visit our friends, the Powells. We also attended the annual Woolly Worm Festival in Daniel's college town, Banner Elk, NC.
    -Day at daycare (yay, Ms. Fran's class!)

    Challenges: Other than the logistics of family vacation planning, Daniel starting work, and Frankie starting daycare, there really hasn't been any this month. Frankie sleeps well, eats even better, and is genuinely just stoked on life. We feel very VERY lucky to have such a fun, easygoing member of the family.

    Thoughts: I can't believe how proud I am of you and how much I love holding you when I get home from work. Sometimes when you're asleep, I just want to crawl into that crib with you. I love watching you hug dada and laugh when Ham the dog tries to clean you for us. You're the life of our party, baby girl. 








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    We've had a really amazing month with Frankie. As always, we're learning to parent on the fly and there will always be challenges, but watching her personality shine and develop is so fun. She's hit a lot of milestones this month and learning to be more independent and I am so proud to be her mom. Sometimes I just wish she'd sit still to snuggle with me, like she did when she was so small, but its also kind of hilarious to have a wild child on my hands. I'm sure it wont be long before she's giving me hugs, so I'll let her explore for now.

    Likes: 
    -Creepy robot dance machine toy
    -Eating literally all the things
    -Naps on Dad
    -Other kids and babies
    -Getting into absolutely everything
    -When people sing to her

    Dislikes:
    -Being set down or put in the car seat when she doesn't want to
    -Mom or dad or someone not being in immediate eyesight
    -Us taking too long to get food to her mouth
    -Sitting still

    Schedule: We're all over the place, as usual, but its nice to know she's a flexible gal. We've finally perfected the art of getting her in jammies if we're planning on not being home so we can just plop her in her crib once we get home. She eats solids as much as anyone will giver her, including "real" solids thrown in like scrambled eggs, avocado, or shredded cheese. She eats about 5-6 6 oz bottles a day. Shes still taking one quick morning nap and a longer afternoon nap. Half way through this month, we started sleep training (see Challenges) and now she's sleeping from 7:30 pm to 6 am pretty regularly. We're loving it!

    Features: Her fuzzy, medium brown hair is finally in all over her head, no more bald spots. She is learning to use her voice in all kinds of loud and funny ways. She's in 6-9 month clothing and in size 3 diapers, but I'm not sure what she weighs. She still loves to laugh and dance and smile at strangers. She's still got her funny little birth marks on her head and her beauty mark that matches mine. Her eyes are a lovely shade of chocolate. She is warm and happy almost always. My little ball of sunshine! The kid care workers at our gym never want to give her up when we come get her. Every time I look at her face, it's hard to imagine that there was once a time I didn't know what it looked like. 

    Milestones: Frankie cut her very first tooth during Hurricane Dorian on September 4th. On September 8th, she learned to crawl AND cut her second tooth! It was a very busy week. She says DaDa and can shake her head and bounce to dance. She can clap and KIND OF does the itsy bitsy spider. Then, all of a sudden, she decided to pull all the way up to standing at the end of the month. She sort of just went all in on the milestones this month!

    Firsts:
    -"Real" foods (eggs, bread, avocado, a tamale, puffs, shredded cheese, meat sauce, yogurt melts)
    -Hurricane (Dorian... we were out of work for two days and had Grandma and Grandpa Russo and Great Grandma and Great Granddad Paul with us for two days due to evacuations. The storm ended up shifting and Jax was spared)
    -Fall from the bed (she's completely fine... she was mad, but shes all good. Lesson learned for mom and dad)

    Challenges: Sleep. This month, we started to REALLY feel the burn of her late night party habits. After almost an entire year of never sleeping for more than three or four hours at a time, Daniel and I reached our limit. We decided to try the Ferber method of sleep training and it WORKED. She has been on this method for almost two weeks now and regularly sleeps from 7:30 or 8 until 6 am. Sometimes she wakes up a little earlier if she's hungry, but we just hand her a bottle in her crib and she does her thing. THANK YOU, FERBER METHOD!

    Thoughts: She's reached the age where shes reaching out to us deliberately and I didn't know my heart could break any more than it already has. Watching her cling to Daniel, give hugs to great granddad, play with and hug Harper, and having her ask me to pick her up is incredible. When she was super little and completely dependent, it was different. Now, I'm watching her independently choose us and its just so special. I love this phase of her life!












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    There is not a better feeling on the planet than walking into the house after a long day, seeing her, and watching her light up when she recognizes me. I have never had so much fun in my life! I knew having kids would be challenging and rewarding, but I think I've laughed more in the last three weeks than I have in the longest time. She's so mobile now and her personality is so strong. Every day it feels like shes learning a new skill and becoming more independent. I love watching her interact with friends and smile at strangers. I love how much she loves food. We're SO close to crawling, but the army crawl/rolling gets her anywhere she wants to go right now. Time to baby-proof the house, finally!

    Likes: 
    -Jumping! Bouncers, on people, anywhere. Just gotta jump!
    -Solid foods. We're up to three meals a day, eating teething wafers, and trying to steal everyone else's food.
    -Dogs. Any and all puppies. Especially when Tater comes over to give her little kisses.
    -Other kiddos.
    -Pulling hair of any kind.
    -Pretty much everything. She's so stoked on life right now!

    Dislikes:
    -We've had to change her jammies and diaper in the middle of the night a few times, thanks to pee overload. That is not her favorite thing.
    -Being hungry.
    -Being put down for a nap when she's not ready.
    -Losing her paci in the middle of the night.

    Schedule: Things are getting better with the introduction of much more solids! We've had several more nights where she's slept from 7 pm until about 5 or 6 am and I'm so proud! I'm still going in to put her paci back in a few times a night, but those nights she stays asleep are glorious. We have one morning nap and one afternoon nap anywhere from 45 mins to two hours long. We eat 6 oz bottles all day and solids with a sippy cup of water 3 times a day. Bed time is at 7 pm sharp (or else!). 

    Features: All her 3-6 month clothing is packed away and she's solidly in 6 month clothing now. We're trying hard to use the last of the size 2 diapers, even though she should probably be in 3s. I've never loved a smile as much as I adore hers. She is just so happy and warm- she feels like sunshine, just like her daddy does. Her hair is really coming back in now, which is dark brown and straight so far. She loves to smile and laugh and she looks just like daddy when she does. When she's got a furrowed brow, she looks just like me. She's still long and lean, with the occasional roll on her thighs and chin. 

    Milestones: Army Crawling! She can get up on all fours and rock back and forth and scoot all over. Crawling isn't far off. She's a strong sitter and can stay seated for a long while. When she lays down now, it is mostly by choice. She can put her own paci in (although backwards sometimes) and can hold her own bottle solidly.

    Firsts:
    - Jogs with mom and dad
    - Going to work with dad
    - Teething wafers
    - Meat (in a puree)
    - Babysitting by a stranger (at YMCA kid care)

    Challenges: She is perfection. I wish she'd sleep more, but that's pretty much all. Everything else is a joy and I am loving every moment I get to spend with her. I did, however, have some personal postpartum challenges this month. I sought therapy and medication and things are so much better now. One night out a week without the baby, doctor's orders. And that little break each week means my time with her is so much richer. We've planned a baby free vacation for Daniel and I in December and I've planned a girls trip with my best friends in March. I'm taking strides to manage my work stress more. I'm working to be a more well-adjusted mama for this little monster! 

    Thoughts: We're closer to her first birthday than we are to her birth and I'm in shock. This little happy, easygoing human that has made my whole world complete- I just can't imagine life without her. Every age is easier. Every phase more fun. I look forward to my weekends and moments with her. I look forward to watching my husband play with her. This is the best life I could imagine.











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